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Hindered Prayers

After addressing wives in several verses, Peter turns his attention to husbands. He writes:

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. – 1 Peter 3:7 (NIV)

Notice a couple of things about this verse. First, he uses the phrase, “in the same way.” In the same way as what? In the same way as Christians are to respect government, slaves are to respect their masters and wives are to respect their husbands, so are husbands to honor and be considerate of their wives. Second, Peter says that Christian husbands are not lords over their wives. Jesus is Lord over us all and He is the only Lord we have. Rather, Peter says that wives are partners and co-heirs with their husbands. Third, when he uses the term “weaker partner” it only refers to a tendency to be physically weaker. It has nothing to do with being weaker in any other sense of the word. Fourth, there is a spiritual consequence for mistreating your wife. Your prayers will be hindered. Don’t treat your wife like your servant or a burden. Honor and cherish her as the special gift God gave to you until death parts you.

Trusting In God’s Plan For The Family

Peter wrote that Christ following wives should concentrate more on inner beauty than outward adornment. He said that the inner beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit never fades. He gives an example from Israel’s history to illustrate what he means. He wrote:

For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. – 1 Peter 3:5-6 (NIV)

This does NOT mean that husbands should demand that their wives call them, “lord.” It means that wives should honor and respect their husbands because they love and put their hope and trust in God. God has created an order in the household and He put the husband in charge. It does not mean that his wife is subservient to or lesser than her husband and he should not treat her that way. It means that she trusts God’s plan for the family.

Winning Over Their Husbands

In 1 Peter 2, Peter addressed submission of Christians to governing authorities and slaves to masters. In chapter 3, he first turns his attention to wives and husbands. He addresses a very specific situation here. He wrote:

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. – 1 Peter 3:1-2 (NIV)

What is a Christian wife of an unbelieving spouse supposed to do? In Peter’s day, a wife was expected to take the religion of her husband. What if she became a Christian and he did not? He might become upset or angry and mistreat her. Peter says that she should be a faithful, loving wife who respects her husband. She should practice her faith with reverence and live a pure life. This way, she might win her husband to the Lord, which is the most important goal of all.

The Vow Of Priority

The latest message from Griffith First Christian Church in Griffith, Indiana.


The Worth Of Your Wife

Proverbs 31 primarily describes the “wife of noble character.” It is a description of the kind of woman that King Lemuel’s mother wanted him to find to be his wife. The last verse of the chapter says this:

Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. – Proverbs 31:31 (NIV)

Lemuel’s mother says that he needs to honor her and praise her for what she does. The leaders of the community would gather at the city gate to conduct business. It was there that her husband should praise her in front of his friends and colleagues. Men, how do you talk about your wife when you are in front of your friends? Do you praise her for who she is and what she does? Or do you complain and make jokes at her expense? Your wife is worth more than that! Do not put her down or complain about her to others. Instead, you should build her up and praise her. Too often we take our wives for granted and we fail to encourage them and love them as Christ loved the church. Let us repent of how we treat our wives and start to treasure them as a wonderful gift from God that He has given to us.

Husbands And Wives

The Bible calls for a special relationship between husbands and wives that sometimes creates controversy and hurt feelings. Paul says:

Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. – Colossians 3:18 (NIV)

A wife is to respect her husband because she loves and submits to God first. This is God’s expectation of a wife in her relationship to her husband. Was Paul a male chauvinist pig? Not at all! In the next verse he says:

Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.  – Colossians 3:19 (NIV)

A husband who loves his wife sacrificially and unconditionally and is patient with her will find that he has a wife who respects him. The husband’s job is not to make his wife submit. The husband’s job is to love her as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). How did Jesus love the church? He died for the church. Husbands, if you are not willing to die to yourself daily for your wife, you are not loving her the way God intends for you to do.

Loving Your Spouse

The latest message from Griffith First Christian Church in Griffith, Indiana.  This message is part of a new series based on Dave Willis’ book, “The 7 Laws of Love.”

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