Posts Tagged ‘Kindness


Getting Even Plus

When someone hurts us, our first instinct is to get even with them. We want revenge! Jesus addressed this in the Sermon on the Mount. He said:

You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ 39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. 40 And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. 41 If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles. 42 Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you. – Matthew 5:38-42 (NIV)

Here’s the problem with revenge. Rarely is it eye for eye. It’s two eyes for an eye. We don’t want to just get even. We want to get even plus. Jesus turns this thinking upside down and says that we need to go the extra mile by returning evil with kindness instead of revenge. Jesus expects His followers to be different from the world. That means that instead of revenge, we respond with love.


As followers of Jesus, we are all part of a great big family of believers. We’re a spiritual family of brothers and sisters. Peter says that we should be hospitable toward one another and help each other without complaining. He wrote:

Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. – 1 Peter 4:9 (NIV)

We do not live in very hospitable times. We like the privacy of our own homes. We like to be left alone. But the fact is that we need our brothers and sisters and they need us. Hospitality is about bring friendly toward others. It is more than just a hug or a handshake on a Sunday morning. It is about doing life together as brothers and sisters. Think about your own flesh and blood. If your brother or sister fell on hard times, many of you would help them however you could. The same thing goes for our spiritual family. We need to practice kindness and hospitality toward our spiritual brothers and sisters. When we do, we shouldn’t complain about it, but rather see it as an opportunity to share the love of God.

Showing Kindness To Enemies

When someone treats you like an enemy, the last thing you want to do is be kind to them. We’d much rather try to get revenge on those who harm us. Solomon said that we should be kind and show compassion to our enemies. He wrote:

If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat;
    if he is thirsty, give him water to drink.

22 In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head,
    and the Lord will reward you. – Proverbs 25:21-22 (NIV)

Notice that there are two things that will happen when we show kindness to our enemies and adversaries. First, we heap proverbial burning coals on their head. They may feel guilt and shame over how they have treated you. Second, the Lord will reward you. God does not reward vengeance. Instead, He rewards kindness and compassion. Jesus told us to love our enemies and to pray for those who persecute us. We do this by showing kindness to them, not in seeking revenge.

Showing Kindness To The Poor

One of the biggest political debates of our time, among many, is what to do with the poor and poverty-stricken. What do we do with people who are less fortunate or who have fallen on hard times? Solomon said that we should be kind to them and for a very good reason. He wrote:

Whoever is kind to the poor lends to the Lord,
    and he will reward them for what they have done. – Proverbs 19:17 (NIV)

Do you show contempt for the poor or do you want to show them kindness? Let’s face it, many of us are closer to being poor than we want to be. If you were to be laid off or if you were to lose your job, you’d be living in the poor house in a matter of months, if not weeks.  So why would we ever show contempt for the poor? Let’s find ways to be kind to them and to give them a hand up. We who have been blessed must recognize that God has been good and generous toward us.  So let’s be generous with our blessings knowing that God will bless us even more when we do.

The New Clothes

Good Monday morning to you! After taking some time to talk about the ways we used to live and how they are inappropriate for God’s people, Paul turns to how we should live now. He says:

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. – Colossians 3:12 (NIV)

Since we are all one in Christ and Christ is in us, we must live differently than the ways we used to live. One of the most important aspects of being a follower of Jesus is that we put others before ourselves. Instead of putting ourselves first, we put Jesus first and then others. We are to be compassionate, kind and humble. We are to be gentle and patient when we deal with others. This is counter-intuitive and counter-cultural. It’s not how the world operates. However, it is how we operate because we don’t belong to the world anymore.

A Good Reminder

Good Wednesday morning to you!  In this life are bound to come troubles, difficulties and disappointments.  In this life are bound to come hardships, roadblocks and people who will let you down.  Someone is going to mess up your day today.  It’s simple mathematics.  You’re going to come into contact with hundreds of people today in one way or another.  It may be a co-worker or a neighbor or a friend.  It might be someone at the grocery store or on the freeway.  You’re going to run into someone having a rotten day and it will seem like they were put on this earth to ruin your day.  Remember this – they weren’t.  Remember that they may be going through something about which you have no idea.  They may be losing a loved one.  They may be going through a break up of some kind.  Their coffee maker might be on the fritz.  You never know what someone is going through, so be patient and kind to everyone you meet.  After all, you don’t want to be the person who ruins someone else’s day.  Think about that as you move about through this Wednesday.  God bless…


Doing Good To All People

Galatians 6:7-10 (NIV)
Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction;whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. 10 Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.
What we do here on earth matters for eternity.  We will all be judged for everything we’ve done here on earth.  ​While this may be a reason for fear for many, it does not have to be terrifying.  Paul tells the Galatians that if they live their lives to please the flesh they “will reap destruction,” but if they live their lives to please God they “will reap eternal life” from God’s Spirit (vs. 8, NIV).  So how do we do that?  We should “do good to all people” (vs 10, NIV).  This is done individually and corporately.  This is done for those outside the church and for “those who belong to the family of believers” (vs. 10, NIV).
As individuals, we evidence the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) as we deal with people outside the family of faith and with those who are a part of it.  The evidence of the Spirit’s control in our lives are when we become more loving, joyful, peacemaking, patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle and self-controlled.  This fruit manifests itself as we deal with other people both inside and outside the church.
As churches, we are called to do good to all people as well.  God loves the world and we, as the church of Jesus Christ, must reflect His love and light to this dark world.  We need to pray for those who persecute us.  We need to do good to all people.  We point too many fingers and preach judgment and Hell-fire without balancing it with grace and love.  Do we need to make people aware of the judgment to come?  Absolutely.  Do we need to warn people about the reality of Hell?  Absolutely.  Do we need to love people into the Kingdom and balance grace with truth?  Absolutely.  That’s what Jesus did.  When we do good to all people, we do so because we love all people just as God loves all people.  So when Jesus comes back to take us all home, He will recognize us as His people because we look just like Him.
Prayer: Father God, fill me with Your love today that I might see opportunities to do good to all people.  Help me to love first, love often and love well.  Thank You for Your love and grace…

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