Posts Tagged ‘Husbands


The Vow Of Priority

The latest message from Griffith First Christian Church in Griffith, Indiana.


The Worth Of Your Wife

Proverbs 31 primarily describes the “wife of noble character.” It is a description of the kind of woman that King Lemuel’s mother wanted him to find to be his wife. The last verse of the chapter says this:

Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. – Proverbs 31:31 (NIV)

Lemuel’s mother says that he needs to honor her and praise her for what she does. The leaders of the community would gather at the city gate to conduct business. It was there that her husband should praise her in front of his friends and colleagues. Men, how do you talk about your wife when you are in front of your friends? Do you praise her for who she is and what she does? Or do you complain and make jokes at her expense? Your wife is worth more than that! Do not put her down or complain about her to others. Instead, you should build her up and praise her. Too often we take our wives for granted and we fail to encourage them and love them as Christ loved the church. Let us repent of how we treat our wives and start to treasure them as a wonderful gift from God that He has given to us.

Husbands And Wives

The Bible calls for a special relationship between husbands and wives that sometimes creates controversy and hurt feelings. Paul says:

Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. – Colossians 3:18 (NIV)

A wife is to respect her husband because she loves and submits to God first. This is God’s expectation of a wife in her relationship to her husband. Was Paul a male chauvinist pig? Not at all! In the next verse he says:

Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.  – Colossians 3:19 (NIV)

A husband who loves his wife sacrificially and unconditionally and is patient with her will find that he has a wife who respects him. The husband’s job is not to make his wife submit. The husband’s job is to love her as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). How did Jesus love the church? He died for the church. Husbands, if you are not willing to die to yourself daily for your wife, you are not loving her the way God intends for you to do.

Loving Your Spouse

The latest message from Griffith First Christian Church in Griffith, Indiana.  This message is part of a new series based on Dave Willis’ book, “The 7 Laws of Love.”


Husbands and Wives

There are some very practical things that Paul writes to the Colossians about the rules for the household.  This is a briefer set of instructions than what he wrote to the Ephesians.  The important thing to remember is that God designed the family and when we follow His plan for the family, we’ll have happier households.  Today we’ll look at husbands and wives and tomorrow we’ll talk about children and other members of the household.
Let’s start with husbands.  God made the husband the head of the household.  What a tremendous responsibility!  He tells the husband to do two things in verse 19:
  1. Love your wife – This is the Greek word for unconditional love.  To love your wife no matter what.  This kind of love is not a this-for-that kind of love.  It is not a conditional, “If you please me, I will love you” kind of love.  It is a love that your wife needs and deserves.  This is the love that says, “You are my one and only.”  Too many men cheat on their wives because they don’t love them second only to Jesus.  I’m not talking about physically cheating (though some men do carry on affairs.  If you are having an affair – STOP!  Repent of your sin, confess it and ask for forgiveness from God and your wife!).  I’m talking about the affair that a man has with his job.  I’m talking about the affair that a man has with his TV.  He comes home and plops down on the couch and zones out the rest of the night.  I’m talking about the affair that a man has with his computer and the pornographic websites on the internet (Jesus said that lusting after someone other than your wife is tantamount to committing adultery with her).  Husbands, we have to love our wives.  Period.
  2. Do not treat your wife harshly – If you truly love your wife unconditionally, you will not treat her harshly.  You will not talk bad about her behind her back.  You will not put her down to your friends.  You will not fly off the handle and lose your temper with her.  You will fulfill the vows you made to her – to love, honor and cherish her until death do you part.  You will tell her that you love her – every day!  She is not your property to do with as you please.  She is the partner God created just for you!  Treat her with gentleness, love and honor.  After all, Christ loved her enough to die for her.  We should love our wives enough to die to ourselves for them.
As far as wives are concerned, Paul tells them to submit themselves to their husbands.  Notice that it is an act of the will that a wife submits to her husband.  This is not an easy thing to do.  The wife has to consciously decide that she will trust that her husband has her best interests in mind and submit to his leadership in the family.  When a husband is not loving and is selfish and self-centered, it makes this command much harder.  But Paul does not say to submit if you feel like it or if your husband makes decisions based on what is best for you and your family.  He says that it is fitting in the Lord to do so.  You are not submitting for your husband’s benefit.  Rather, it is out of love and obedience to the Lord that you submit.  it is the Lord’s own command that wives submit to their husbands.  When you choose to submit to your husband, you are obeying God and that pleases Him.
Following God’s plan for the family isn’t always easy.  If it were easy and if it came naturally, we wouldn’t need the reminders to do it.  But when we submit to God first and foremost, we’ll find it easier to follow His plan for the family and our lives will be better and more blessed for it.

Colossians 3:18-19

New International Version (NIV)

Instructions for Christian Households

18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.


In The Same Way

The message from Griffith First Christian Church on Sunday, February 10, 2013.

Here are the links to the handouts I gave out toward the end of the message.

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