Posts Tagged ‘Gossip

09
Aug
17

The Fire Of Gossip

Gossip destroys friendships and relationships. When we hear gossip, we have a choice to make. We can repeat it or we can stop it. Proverbs 26 says this:

Without wood a fire goes out;
    without a gossip a quarrel dies down.

21 As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire,
    so is a quarrelsome person for kindling strife. – Proverbs 26:20-21 (NIV)

If we choose to repeat gossip, then we are adding wood to a fire. It is like adding charcoal to a barbecue grill. The gossip we spread has the potential to keep adding drama to a situation that may be destroying a relationship. Let’s face it, when we hear gossip we get a little bit excited. You know something juicy and now you can’t wait to tell someone else. Ask yourself, “Will this help defuse a situation or will it make things worse?” Don’t spread gossip. Let it die with you and you can help extinguish a raging fire.
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01
Aug
17

Avoiding Gossip

Gossip is very dangerous, according to Solomon. We need to be careful when it comes to what we say and to whom we say it. Check out what he says:

A gossip betrays a confidence;
    so avoid anyone who talks too much. – Proverbs 20:19 (NIV)

Earlier in Proverbs, Solomon wrote this about gossip:

The words of a gossip are like choice morsels;
    they go down to the inmost parts. – Proverbs 18:8 (NIV)

Not only should we be careful when it comes to the people to whom we speak, but we should be careful when it comes to what we listen to as well. A gossip will betray your confidence, so watch out when sharing too much or else you may be considered a gossip as well. Let’s face it, juicy gossip can be “fun” to hear. It can also tear a person down. So don’t spread gossip. After all, would you want someone gossiping about you?
16
May
17

Our Poisonous Tongues

We keep animals in our homes because they have been tamed and domesticated. James says that the tongue is far more dangerous. He writes:

All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, 8 but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. – James 3:7-8 (NIV)

Your tongue has the ability to kill with poisonous words. Gossip. Rumors. Insults. Put-downs. Lies. How many wounds have our tongues inflicted? How have we crushed and killed the spirits of those around us by our words? Here’s the thing, your tongue is not the guilty party in all of this. It’s your heart. Jesus said that it is your heart that controls what your tongue says. A poisoned tongue comes from a poisoned heart. A transformed heart leads to a transformed tongue. The tongue can only speak what’s in your heart, so let God work on transforming your heart so that your words will give life and not take it.
24
Nov
15

The Fire Of Gossip

There are two verses in Proverbs 26 that deal with the words of a gossip:

Without wood a fire goes out;
without gossip a quarrel dies down. (Proverbs 26:20, NIV)

The words of a gossip are like choice morsels;
they go down to a man’s inmost parts. (Proverbs 26:22, NIV)

We, as followers of Christ, cannot be given over to gossip.  Romans 1:28-29 describes the wickedness and evil of humanity.  Included in this list of vices is gossip.  Gossip leads to quarrels.  It leads to pain and suffering.  It leads to division.  God is a God of reconciliation, not division.  If we gossip about one another, we risk quarrels and division in the church and in our families and relationships.  I believe that nothing good comes of gossip.  The Hebrew word for gossip literally means to murmur or complain about someone behind their back.  If you have a problem with someone, you need to take it to that person.  Don’t complain about them behind their back.  Take it to them.  You will destroy the relationship, hurt feelings and divide.  God cannot be pleased with gossip.  The second verse (Proverbs 26:22) has implications for the one who listens to Gossip.  Don’t do it!  Rather than listening for the latest scoop, rebuke the gossiper.  Tell them to go to the person about whom they are spreading gossip.  Rather than listening to someone’s complaints, nip the gossip in the bud and tell them to take it to that person.  This is the Biblical model for dealing with issues between brothers and sisters in Christ.
PRAYER: God, I repent of my gossip.  I admit and confess that there have been times in my life when I have gossiped about others or listened to gossip.  I ask for Your forgiveness for the gossip I have spread.  Help me to do better when it comes to quenching the fire of gossip.  Amen.
15
Oct
15

Too Many Words

In Proverbs 10, the proverbs actually begin.  Up until this point, Solomon’s teachings have been a call to accept wisdom and to pursue it rather than wealth or things.  There have been a few proverbs along the way, but this is where the “bumper stickers” really get going.  Notice the pattern of the majority of these proverbs.  There is a saying about the wise or righteous person and then a “but” and then what is true of a person who is wicked or foolish.  For example:

The man of integrity walks securely,
but he who takes crooked paths will be found out. (Proverbs 10:9, NIV)

What a great proverb!  The one who lives his or her life with integrity can walk and rest securely knowing that they have nothing to hide.  The one who tries to deceive others will be found out.  This is SO true!  As Christians, we need to live lives of integrity and character.  The world is watching us to see if we walk the walk and not just talk the talk.  Integrity is so important in showing Jesus to the world.
Now, the pattern is not without variation.  Look at this proverb:

When words are many, sin is not absent,
but he who holds his tongue is wise. (Proverbs 10:19, NIV)

Also, very true!  But it is a different pattern.  This time, the behavior of the foolish is first and then contrasted by the behavior of the wise.  I like this proverb!  It goes along with James’ teachings in his letter in the New Testament.  Read James 3:1-12.  James says that though the tongue is small, it is “a world of evil among the parts of the body” (James 3:6, NIV).  If we could learn to control our tongues, we would be “perfect” as James says in verse 2.  But when we run our mouths – gossip, slander and lies (oh my!) – sin is very present.  May the words of our mouths be pleasing in the sight of the Lord today (Psalm 19:14).
PRAYER: Help me, Lord, to be able to control my tongue today.  Help me when I am tempted to lie or to gossip.  Give me wisdom to know when to hold my tongue.  I need integrity with regard to the things I do.  Thank You for Your forgiveness when I fail. Amen.

 

09
Sep
15

Like Cubs and Sox Fans

James 3:9-12 (NIV)
 With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. 10 Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. 11 Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? 12 My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.
I live near Chicago and when people tell me that they can be both a Cubs fan and a fan of my Chicago White Sox, I look at them like they have a third eye growing out of their head.  What are you saying?!?  That is impossible!  It just cannot be!
The tongues of humans are capable of such great beauty.  We get together on a Sunday morning and we sing praises to our Lord Jesus.  Whether it is a classic hymn from the past that we know by heart or a new song of praise from the present we are learning, we praise God with our tongues in wonderful ways.
Then, when the service is over, we walk out of the worship center and our tongues do a 180.  We’ll gossip about the person down the row from us.  We’ll whisper insults about the way someone was dressed.  We’ll say horrible things about the people with whom we just worshiped the Lord.  James says that this should not be!  We’re awful, aren’t we?  We love to sing songs of praise and to utter inspiring prayers that reach the throne room of Heaven, but then we turn around and curse, insult and gossip about God’s people.
Our tongues are capable of such beauty in one moment and such terrible things in the next.  The problem is that we don’t watch what we’re saying.  We’re not guarding our hearts.  What comes out of our mouths is a direct reflection of what is in our hearts.  Jealous words come from a jealous heart.  Insecure words flow from an insecure heart.  Gossip comes from a tongue fueled by a heart that is focused on the wrong things.
Think about what you’re saying today.  Keep praising the Lord who is worthy of all glory and honor, but do not allow your tongue to curse those made in His image.
PRAYER: Father God, You are great and awesome.  Your name is holy.  I praise and thank You today for all that You have done, all that you’re doing and for all You have promised to do.  Help me to keep a tight rein on my tongue.  Help me to see the best in people and to love them with my heart and not curse them with my tongue.  I cannot do this without You and Your grace.  I ask this all in the name of Jesus, my Lord.  Amen.
08
Nov
12

The Fire Of Gossip

There are two verses in Proverbs 26 that deal with the words of a gossip:

Without wood a fire goes out;
without gossip a quarrel dies down. (Proverbs 26:20, NIV)

The words of a gossip are like choice morsels;
they go down to a man’s inmost parts. (Proverbs 26:22, NIV)

We, as followers of Christ, cannot be given over to gossip.  Romans 1:28-29 describes the wickedness and evil of humanity.  Included in this list of vices is gossip.  Gossip leads to quarrels.  It leads to pain and suffering.  It leads to division.  God is a God of reconciliation, not division.  If we gossip about one another, we risk quarrels and division in the church and in our families and relationships.  I believe that nothing good comes of gossip.  The Hebrew word for gossip literally means to murmur or complain about someone behind their back.  If you have a problem with someone, you need to take it to that person.  Don’t complain about them behind their back.  Take it to them.  You will destroy the relationship, hurt feelings and divide.  God cannot be pleased with gossip.  The second verse (Proverbs 26:22) has implications for the one who listens to Gossip.  Don’t do it!  Rather than listening for the latest scoop, rebuke the gossiper.  Tell them to go to the person about whom they are spreading gossip.  Rather than listening to someone’s complaints, nip the gossip in the bud and tell them to take it to that person.  This is the Biblical model for dealing with issues between brothers and sisters in Christ.



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