Fear Induced Isolation

I am becoming more convinced of something the older I get.  A fulfilling life is about relationships.  First and foremost, one’s relationship with God.  Secondly, a relationship with others.  Finally, your relationship with yourself.  For a truly joyful life, we need healthy relationships with God, others and ourselves – in that order.
Throughout Ecclesiastes we have seen how Solomon’s pursuit of the third relationship – pleasing himself in various ways – left him feeling empty.  In this passage, Solomon realizes the importance of relationships with others.  Life without friendships is lonely and meaningless.  Later in this study, we’ll see what Solomon says about one’s relationship with God.
Relationships are not just about receiving, but giving as well.  Purely self-centered relationships where one party takes and takes and takes are not healthy.  Whether it is in a friendship or a marriage, there must be give and take.  When one falls, the other can pick them up and vice-versa.  When the one who isolates themselves falls, who will be there to help them?
Some may choose a life of loneliness because they’re afraid of getting hurt.  Some may want to be an island living a life of isolation because they don’t want to risk vulnerability.  At the end of your life, what will you want?  How will your fear and isolation help you when you’re dying alone?  Take the risk.  Don’t choose isolation over vulnerability.  We’re not meant to be Lone Rangers.  God created us with a need for relationships.  To be truly healthy and whole means that we need others in our lives.

Ecclesiastes 4:7-12 (NIV)

Again I saw something meaningless under the sun:

There was a man all alone;
    he had neither son nor brother.
There was no end to his toil,
    yet his eyes were not content with his wealth.
“For whom am I toiling,” he asked,
    “and why am I depriving myself of enjoyment?”
This too is meaningless—
    a miserable business!

Two are better than one,
    because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down,
    one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
    and has no one to help them up.
11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
    But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered,
    two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.


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