- Love your wife – This is the Greek word for unconditional love. To love your wife no matter what. This kind of love is not a this-for-that kind of love. It is not a conditional, “If you please me, I will love you” kind of love. It is a love that your wife needs and deserves. This is the love that says, “You are my one and only.” Too many men cheat on their wives because they don’t love them second only to Jesus. I’m not talking about physically cheating (though some men do carry on affairs. If you are having an affair – STOP! Repent of your sin, confess it and ask for forgiveness from God and your wife!). I’m talking about the affair that a man has with his job. I’m talking about the affair that a man has with his TV. He comes home and plops down on the couch and zones out the rest of the night. I’m talking about the affair that a man has with his computer and the pornographic websites on the internet (Jesus said that lusting after someone other than your wife is tantamount to committing adultery with her). Husbands, we have to love our wives. Period.
- Do not treat your wife harshly – If you truly love your wife unconditionally, you will not treat her harshly. You will not talk bad about her behind her back. You will not put her down to your friends. You will not fly off the handle and lose your temper with her. You will fulfill the vows you made to her – to love, honor and cherish her until death do you part. You will tell her that you love her – every day! She is not your property to do with as you please. She is the partner God created just for you! Treat her with gentleness, love and honor. After all, Christ loved her enough to die for her. We should love our wives enough to die to ourselves for them.
Following God’s plan for the family isn’t always easy. If it were easy and if it came naturally, we wouldn’t need the reminders to do it. But when we submit to God first and foremost, we’ll find it easier to follow His plan for the family and our lives will be better and more blessed for it.
New International Version (NIV)
Instructions for Christian Households
18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.